Monday, May 11, 2009
Supra as prefix can mean "above" or "superior to." In this case, I prefer the first definition.
Since I restarted writing on this blog a few weeks ago, traffic is way up, I have more followers (public and anonymous) and I get a bunch of emails a day. I reply to each one fairly quickly, so if you have questions or comments, just drop me an email. Don't be afraid. You can also use the Anonymous option when leaving a comment to ask a question if you don't want me knowing your email address.
The #1 email topic I receive is either compliments for my writing style or criticisms of my writing style. Some people (mostly women, some men) think I am TOO vulgar or specific. This blog is for me to remember what I did in history. I use vulgarity or specifics to reinforce exactly what I was thinking at the time. This is not a sex blog, but I write about my sexual experiences, so it comes up.
The #2 email topic I receive is hatred or curiosity over why I prefer to date women with serious boyfriends. That's what I want to discuss here.
I've dated attached women all my life, starting at the age of 16. I've dated women aged 18 to 53. I'm not a casanova. I'm not an easy lay. I don't go out looking for sex, and never ONCE in my life have I been the one to lead a woman to the bedroom.
I am a busy man with many projects. I have gained some fame and infamy in a few industries, which is why I try to keep this blog anonymous for myself. I'm not embarassed by it, but I'm not going to lose customers and money over being honest. Forget about it.
Because I am busy, it is very hard for me to give a woman all she needs in a boyfriend. I do well with fuck buddy relationships because I am secure enough to know that she will be likely dating, and maybe even fucking, other men. I love a sugar-daddy relationship because I love to put a girl in nice things. When I have a sugar-baby, sex is not a prerequisite or even a requirement. When I've sponsored a woman, if we have sex, it is always on her request.
The best relationship for me is being the completion of a relationship for a woman. Maybe she has a man who supports her in every way but one. I can be that one. Sometimes I am just a friend who takes her out for drinks and adventure. Someones I am a lover.
The #1 complaint I hear from women, daily, is that their sex life is terrible. MOST of these women are married or in serious relationships. If everything is perfect but sex, should you throw the man out? NO. 60% of relationships have had or will have (or do have) infidelity. It's a fact. On Chicago's Q101 alternative radio station, there is an active advertisement for a dating site that GUARANTEES you'll find someone to sleep with and not get caught by your significant other.
I put it out there better than most: I don't sleep around, I'm not looking to conquer a woman and never call her again. If I have sex with you, it's because you wanted it and showed me the signs you did. In bed, I will only do what I feel you need in bed. I have an extremely fine understanding of women's sexual needs. I'm not a wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am guy. Some women just need a warm, naked body to cuddle against. In this case, I will not seek an orgasm from either of us. Some women need to be violated. Some women need passion and love in the bedroom. I can provide all of it, and when you're done with me, I will leave quietly.
I'm not a hookup. I'm not a one-night-stand. I've had years where I slept with 4 women, and have gone 3 years with no sex. I'm not a sex addict. I just like helping people with their needs. Some women come to me for business or work advice. Others want to just make out with me for hours and they don't want their boyfriend to find out. I'm discrete. I'm quiet. I listen and can listen for hours and hours. I'll never interrupt you talking, and I will retain enough of what you say to guide the conversation towards actual closure for you.
Don't hate me because I slept with a girl who had a boyfriend that she married. She needed me to. She needed real passion, real attention to her body and her needs, and real climatic finality. Sometimes it takes months to reach it, other times it takes just a few treks into the bedroom, against the car, in a public bathroom, or in a hotel.
I like sex, but sex for me is about making a person feel what they need to feel. There's nothing I won't do in bed, but there's only one or two things I like done. I never tell women what that is, but if they ask for it, I'm even happier.
I fake orgasms often. I'd say 30% of my orgasms are fake because the woman is obviously through, and I prefer to make her feel like it was good for me. Most guys can come in 5 minutes sticking it in a meat grinder. For me, it's a process.
Am I vulgar? Yes. Am I immoral? No. Do I interest people? Maybe. At least I'm honest. I won't stalk you or get jealous. I won't set limits or draw lines in the sand. If you decide you want to sleep with me, you'll remember it forever. It's not because of a big dick or anything, I just listen to your words, see your body language, and in an hour know how I can help you in the bedroom.
Do I want a long term girlfriend? Yes, if she can understand my hectic lifestyle. I don't cheat, but I don't force commitments. I hate promises from others, I'd rather take it day by day. You may call it cheating, but some day you may find yourself in the position of needing a guy like me; few of them are around. Most are liars.
I didn't start this blog to meet women. I started it to write my history down so I won't forget it forever. I actually maintain another private blog that I email 15-20 times a day so I don't forget specifics of the day. I try to pare it down and stick the results here.
Have a question? Email me or leave a comment (anonymous if you prefer). Anything goes. I will answer any question.